The Reality of Married Life

John J. Robinson in his book Of Suchness retroverts the following advice on love, awaken and married bread and butter story. Be careful and discreet it is much easier to arrive at got married than unmarried. If you have the right mate, its heavenly but if not, you live in a twenty-four-hour daily hell that clings constantly to you, it clear be one(a) of the bitterest things in life. Life is indeed strange. Somehow, when you find the right one, you know it in your heart. It is not just an infatuation of the moment. But the powerful urges of sex fill a young person headlong into unsighted acts and one cannot presumption his feelings too much.This is especi exclusivelyy true if one drinks and get befuddled the lousiest floozie in a dark bar can look handle a Venus accordingly, and her charms become irresistible. Love is much more than sex though it is the biological foundation amid a man and a woman love and sex get all inter-twined and mixed up. Problems Almost everyday, we hear quite a little complaining about their brotherhoods. Very seldom do we hear stories about a happy marriage. Young people reading romantic novels and seeing romantic films often conclude that marriage is a bed of roses.Unfortunately, marriage is not as sweet as one thinks. uniting and problems are interrelated and people must(prenominal)(prenominal) dream up that when they are getting married, they ordain have to panorama problems and responsibilities that they had never evaluate or experienced hitherto. People often think that it is a obligation to get married and that marriage is a very important point in their lives. However, in order to ensure a successful marriage, a couple has to harmonize their lives by minimizing whatever differences they may have amongst them.Marital problems prompted a cynic to say that there can simply be a peaceful married life if the marriage is between a blind married woman and a deaf husband, for the blind wife cannot see the faul ts of the husband and a deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of his wife. Sharing and Trust One of the major causes of marital problems is suspicion and mistrust. Marriage is a blessing but many people make it a curse due to lack of understanding. Both husband and wife should utter implicit trust for one another and punish not to have secrets between them.Secrets create suspicion, suspicion leads to jealously, jealousy generates anger, anger causes rancor and enmity may result in separation, suicide or even murder. If a couple can share pain and pleasure in their casual life, they can console distributively other and minimize their grievances. Thus, the wife or husband should not expect to experience only pleasure. There forget be a lot of painful, miserable experiences that they will have to face. They must have the strong willpower to reduce their burdens and misunderstandings. Discussing mutual problems will give them confidence to live together with better understanding.Man and woman motive the comfort of each other when facing problems and difficulties. The feelings of insecurity and unrest will disappear and life will be more meaningful, happy and evoke if there is someone who is willing to share anothers burden. Blinded by Emotions When 2 people are in love, they run to show only the better(p) aspects of their spirit and character to each other in order to see to it a good impression of themselves. Love is said to be blind and hence people in love tend to become altogether oblivious of the darker stead of each others natures.In practice, each will try to highlight his or her sterling qualities to the other and being so concentrate in love, they tend to accept each other at face value only. Each lover will not disclose the darker side of his or her nature for fear of losing the other. Any personal shortcomings are discreetly swept under the carpet, so to speak, so as not to endanger their chances of winning each other. People in love also tend to ignore their partners faults thinking that they will be able to correct them after(prenominal) marriage, or that they can live with these faults, that love will conquer all.However, after marriage, as the initial romantic mood wears off, the true nature of each others character will be revealed. Then, much to the disappointment of two parties, the proverbial veil that had so far been concealing the innermost feelings of each partner is removed to expose the true nature of both partners. It is then that disillusion sets in. Material Needs Love by itself does not endure on fresh air and sunshine alone. The present world is a materialistic world and in order to meet your material needs, prissy financing and budgeting is essential. Without it, no family can live comfortably.Such a spot aptly bears out the saying that when poverty knocks at the door, love wing through the window. This does not mean that one must be rich to make a marriage work. However, if one has the bare necessities of life provided through a secure job and careful planning, many extra anxieties can be removed from a marriage. The discomfort of poverty can be averted if there is complete understanding between the couple. Both partners must understand the value of contentment. Both must treat all problems as our problems and share all the ups and downs in the true spirit of a long-standing life partnership.